Monday, February 11, 2008

Arranged or Love?

Vows exchanged, lives changed
Wedded strangers, arranged forever’s
Virgin bride’s sacrifice, tempting avarice
Will he comply, and then live a lie?
Or wait alength for love’s enclosing warmth?
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In response to the prompt from ReadWritePoem
as well as the prompt from WI
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17 comments:

Brian said...

Interesting concept. She should, but he may not without being caught.

SweetTalkingGuy said...

I imagine that being married, whatever the reason must bring big change into a persons life.

paisley said...

i do not agree with the precept of arraigned marriage,, but i understand your commitment here... if there were only two people on the face of the earth,, i do believe they would eventually fall in love,, or something similar,, but there are many more people than that... so the concept doesn't make all that much sense to me... but who am i to say.....

either way you did a wonderful job here ul..

Whitesnake said...

Are yes the question that we all want to answer.
But we won't!

spillay said...

Beautiful writing. :)

Spillay xx
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Lucy said...

wonderful poem Ul, I would imagine an arranged marriage as QUITE a challenging change.

noahthegreat said...

This makes me wonder...

gautami tripathy said...

Unless one gets into the cutural thing, one cannot understand it fully. It has its merits and demerits. So does love marriage.

Not that I am any expert on either, being single!

One cannot generalise. But being Indian, you know that already.

A common enough story in broken lines

chicklegirl said...

I married for love, but as a pragmatist, I really did a lot of homework, mistrusted the physical chemistry and asked a lot of pointed, specific questions before taking the plunge. I could see how an arranged marriage would account for all those practical concerns which were so important to me to insure future security.

That said, security isn't everything!

The poem was nicely done.

Selma said...

I have a friend who is Indian who had an arranged marriage and 25 years later she is very happy and still married. My divorced friends often say if they had had an arranged marriage they wouldn't keep ending up with the wrong guy. I think there is a lot more to it than meets the eye!

Crafty Green Poet said...

this brings up some interesting questions....

anthonynorth said...

It is a fact that many such marriages work exceedingly well. But I can't get it out of my head that it's a bit of a lottery - you may win, you may lose. But then again, looking at the general divorce rates in non-arranged marriages ...
An excellent post for an excellent discussion.

keith hillman said...

I have chosen my bride on more than one occasion, and I am now single. It often occurs to me that had my wife been chosen for me, my heart would have not have ruled my head and I may still be married today.

watermaid said...

An interesting and well written poem, which has provoked some interesting comments. I will add mine.

I think that some people just aren't very good at making choices, and I'm one of them. I doubt if it would have been any better had my partner been chosen for me, although I did make the same mistake twice.

Marja said...

Interesting take in beautiful words. I think with arranged marriages you can have as much luck as with falling in love, Seeing the number of divorces with the falling in love ones.
No matter how it starts you are very blessed if it turns into deeper love

Redness said...

Beautiful words with sadness only apparent to us with a lack of cultural knowledge! Thought provoking!

qualcosa di bello said...

i hope he waits for love...